If you have ever read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens, you know one of the habits is Be Proactive.
Sean Covey, the author, explains that being proactive is taking control of our lives, our ideas, decisions and actions. Being proactive is taking responsibility over our lives.
On the other hand, being reactive is letting the world around you decide how you feel and how you act. Being reactive is using the actions of others as excuses for our own behaviors. We’ve all been there, saying things like “the teacher didn’t send the email” or “I didn’t come to school that day”. Reactive people make choices based on impulse.
Proactive people make choices based on values. They think before they act. They recognize they can’t control everything that happens to them, but they can control what they do about it. A proactive person realizes no one can make them mad unless they let them. It’s their choice. You choose to be mad.
Unless you are in charge of your life, nothing else is possible. I’m not saying being proactive is simple, being reactive is way easier. Blaming others or doing exactly what we feel like doing at all times is easier than thinking before we act or taking a step back and consider the best options and consequences.
The good news is, the more you practice being proactive, the easier it becomes, sooner than later you will always have control of your decisions and actions, you will not let other people determine how you feel, you will always be in charge, and the consequences of being in charge are ones that you will be happy to have.
Ms. Gaby Di Muro
This week I learned that is always valuable to make mistakes, even when my mistake was hurtful to someone I really care about. As long as we are able to accept our mistakes and deal with the consequences, everything will be alright.
Don’t get me wrong, it sucks to make mistakes, it sucks to hurt someone you love, it’s awful to think that someone might hate you, but I personally learned so much from being wrong that I appreciate the experience. I’m sure this made me stronger and I now have new skills to deal with issues in my relationships. One thing we can always count on having are problems, so we should be ready and willing to solve them.
Long story short, this week I’m grateful I get to make mistakes, I’m grateful I get to feel bad and I get to overthink every little thing I did wrong, I don’t like the feeling, but I understand the need for it.
I honestly believe that without bad feelings, we wouldn’t really appreciate good feelings. We need all feelings, embrace and be thankful for all feelings.
Also this week, I had a conversation where I mentioned that my mom is the type of mom that supports whatever decision I want to take, even if she thinks is the wrong one, she will never say that to me. The person I was having the conversation with said I have a very smart mom, and I agree, I do have a smart (and the best) mom, I’m always grateful she’s my mom, or my mother, like I like to call her.
In other news, someone told me they can hear my laugh in the classroom next to my office when they are having classes there. For some reason, that makes me happy. I’m sorry my laugh is so annoying.
I hope you can keep hearing my laugh in inappropriate places,
Ms. Gaby Di Muro
You have no idea how happy and grateful I am because my mom is coming to visit me tomorrow. I haven’t seen her in almost three weeks, but besides that, she never comes to my house, so tomorrow I want to cook for her and my stepdad and I hope they have the best time ever. Only downside, they can’t bring my cats, but I need to focus on the positive!
I’m very grateful because this school year has been about seeing the results of my efforts, which mostly means I get to see you grow and behave in positive and healthy ways, but also means I’m being recognize for my work and that is something that keeps me going and motivates me to do my best.
I’ve been meaning to say this, I hope everyone has a friend like Francisco in their lives. I’m grateful I have to opportunity to be a part of his life. He supported me this week even more than he always does, which is a lot, so it’s time he gets the recognition he deserves. Thank you Fran.
Overall, another great week. Not as crazy as Halloween week, STUCO and Halloween are a crazy match, but just as fun. Thank you to all of your for always being in a good mood, for being fun to be around and for letting me help you as much as I can.
See you around,
Ms. Gaby Di Muro
How Trick-or-Treating Became Part of Halloween Tradition
Despite its origins in pagan and Christian tradition, the modern American Halloween is often a purely secular celebration centered on candy and costumes. But in fact, one of the most frivolous aspects of the holiday has a serious religious past.
Medieval Christian tradition held that on Hallowtide, the eve of All Saints’ Day, the poor went to the homes of the wealthy and offered to pray for the recently departed in that household. It was believed that more prayers meant a soul was more likely to be saved, explains historian Nicholas Rogers, author of Halloween: From Pagan Ritual to Party Night. As a token of their appreciation, the rich would give the poor food and beer.
In fact, many Halloween customs come from this same ritual. For example, often the visitors would show up holding lanterns made of hollowed-out turnips with candles inside, which represented souls in purgatory. Masses were held so that souls wouldn’t feel neglected and haunt believers. A medieval English historian named John Stow reported there was “subtle disguising, masks, and mummeries” — so, costumes — and in some cases choir boys dressed as virgin brides, representing forthcoming marriages that would lead to more births and the replenishment of the Christian population.
But after the Protestant Reformation — which can be traced back to a different Oct. 31 event: Martin Luther’s 1517 publication of his 95 theses — the idea that souls could be saved in this way began to lose popularity in many of the new denominations.
Some Catholics kept up the practice of going door-to-door on the eve of All Saints’ Day, which became known as “souling.” By the 1840s, when a wave of Irish and Scottish immigrants brought the custom to the U.S., it was basically a secular pastime associated with that immigrant population. Young people danced outside tenement apartments in exchange for gifts, leading into a night of drinking and revelry in the streets and in bars. Costumes were made out of old clothes, and faces painted with burnt corks, while tricks included stuffing cabbages in chimneys and whacking each other with bags of flour.
Although the Catholic Irish faced widespread prejudice from nativist forces in their new homeland, the celebration, having been stripped of its Catholic underpinning, quickly proved to be popular. As those immigrants began to assimilate, newspapers reported the custom trending among 19th century college students. In the early 1900s, high schools, rotary clubs and charities began to throw Halloween parties, and guidebooks about how to host such celebrations came out. By the 1930s, North America had a new term for the old tradition: trick-or-treating. And as suburbanization grew in the 1950s, trick-or-treating grew into the kid-friendly practice it’s largely seen as today.
There are countless things I can be thankful for this week, but I’m the most grateful about having the opportunity to see you excel at what you love to do. From seeing some of you edit a video with incredible skill, to giving you a bunch of responsibility that you were able to handle so well.
I’m glad things don’t always go as planned, because that’s when we have the opportunity to grow and realize what our true skills and abilities are, that’s something I’ve learned along the way, and that I was reminded of during the Halloween picnic. I’m very proud of my STUCO team for showing me that and from everyone who helped building and doing the haunted house. Thank you guys!
Halloween is always fun. Even though I’ve never worked as hard during Halloween before I’m grateful I got to wear my cat ears and eat a bunch of candy.
This weekend is the international book fair, you have no idea how excited I am. First I’ll sleep for a while and then fun, fun, fun. I’m grateful I get to relax and enjoy something different from school this weekend. Don’t get me wrong I love school, and I’m grateful I get to be busy, but I also need a break so I don’t end up hating school, and you need it too, so enjoy your weekend and come prepared for another week of awesome.
Right now I’m going to start a new book that was a gift from someone I admire. See you soon,
Ms. Gaby Di Muro
Positivity is contagious!